Friday, April 18, 2008

Wonderfully Made

It's very neat lately to see my children growing up. I have particularly seen my three (almost four) year old turning into such a big girl. I have been thinking about The Five Love Languages (by Gary Chapman...if you haven't read it you need to)since Sharon's post a few days ago. I am actually beginning to see my two oldest beginning to lean toward a particular one and I have been trying to speak that to them.

My oldest, my little girl, has been wanting a lot of one on one time. All of the acting up and attitude stops when I have spent good quality time with her. She is usually not into me being all over her and doesn't seem to care one way or another if I compliment her or say something nice about her. She is always asking for time alone, girl time, or time with Daddy. When we are spending this time together, she usually says a dozen times how much she loves getting to spend some alone time together. Thus, my reasoning for being pretty sure that her love language is quality time.

My next little man doesn't seem to want as much one on one, isn't too into compliments, but absolutely loves being right tight up (or on top) next to us. He is always hugging, kissing, and wanting to sit on our laps. When we are sitting on the couch, he wants to be held. He loves holding hands...even when he was a year old, I used to have to hold his hand in the car to keep him quiet. I have made a point to shower him with extra cuddles, hugs, and kisses. Those are my reasons for thinking his love language is physical touch.

It's been really amazing to me that at such a young age they have a certain way that they want to be loved. It also helps that the two love languages they like being spoken to in are also my top two...makes it a little easier. It just blows me away the awesomeness (is that a word?) of how God made each one of us!

I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well. ~ Psalms 139:14

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Anna said...

I wish it was that clear to me what the kids's love languages are. I'm leaning towards physical touch for Ethan. Kyle I have trouble with. It may be quality time, but he mostly just wants to do boy stuff with his Dad. He seems to really appreciate when I get him little trinkets like pencils or new crayons for school, so maybe gifts. I'm at a loss. More than anything I do know that he feels totally loved, when we include his other family/siblings, send them little gifts, show them projects he's done, chat with them, whatever it may be. That's when I really see happiness in him, when everyone around him is loving each other, not just him. It's so hard though.